What a wild ride it’s been. We’ve have learned so much in the past couple of months. The people we’ve met, the stories we’ve heard, and the truths we’ve realized have been priceless. We hope you’ll take few moments to read just a glimpse of the amazing things we’ve learned so far.
We’ve learned that, with goodwill, selfless friends, and a gracious God, nothing is impossible. Many of you know we kicked off the fundraising for our adoption with a rummage sale hosted at our church. Now, Mysteree and I volunteer for church events regularly and it’s always been amazing to see people come together around a cause and accomplish something. However, it’s an entirely other thing when you’re the subject of the event – when it’s you and your cause for which people are gathering. Humbling is an understatement. And if you helped out in any way, whether that be donating your time, your stuff, or your money, we cannot thank you enough. It’s because of you that we were able to pull of such an amazing event.
“For nothing will be impossible with God” – Luke 1:37
We’ve learned that it truly does take a village. I’ve joked that there’s a reason these adoption agencies make you pay before they send you the paperwork – because you wouldn’t go through with the adoption if you got it first! The paperwork is seriously daunting. Reality starts to sink in that you cannot do this alone. Mysteree and I are simply not enough. It’s going to take an army of selfless souls who love us enough to give their time, energy, wisdom, money, and sometimes, a shoulder to cry on, or this adoption thing just isn’t going to happen. The support so far has been nothing shy of incredible. It’s given people the opportunity to express their kindness and generosity. It’s given us the opportunity to feel what it’s like to be the recipients of that generosity. And we know it’s going to continue until the day we bring our child home to meet each and every one of you who are now, no matter how big or small, part of our story.
“Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much” – Helen Keller
We’ve learned that racial issues are real, and we’re all responsible for fixing them. Part of the adoption process is preparing you to bring a child of another race into your family. Big deal, right? That’s what I thought. Part of our “homework”, as the agency calls it, was to watch a documentary called Dark Girls. If you read the first sentence of this paragraph and didn’t mutter “amen” under your breath then you should watch it, too. We heard stories of little girls who were so unhappy in their own skin that they would literally try to scrub the darkness from themselves because they thought they were “dirty”… My God, can you imagine? I couldn’t. I can’t. And I never will. We have a renewed perspective on race and the important role we all play in making sure no little girl ever has to feel “dirty” in their own skin again.
“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.” – MLK, Jr.
We’ve learned that people are beautiful. When we saw how much money it takes to adopt we got discouraged. Sure, we counted on friends and family helping out, but not that much. I mean c’mon, adoption costs aren’t too far from the average yearly salary of a family in the United States! But boy, how wrong we were. We are reminded almost weekly how wrong we were. People are absolutely beautiful; and it’s hard to see that from certain positions in life. But here, now, when we’re dependent on the goodness and kindness of others, we see clearly what we so often forget: People. Are. Beautiful.
“A generous person will prosper; whoever refreshes others will be refreshed.” – Proverbs 11:25
Finally, we’ve learned that adoption is straight from the heart of God. Our story started with two people’s dream of giving a loving home to a child who may not have otherwise had one. Now it’s continuing through the selflessness of others and their generous hearts to give what they have and forever become a part of bringing that child into our family. And the story will live on through our child’s birth family, adopted family, and each of you. Every single step in the process is a picture of the one who has adopted you into His family, forever.
“Everything that we see is a shadow cast by that which we do not see.” – MLK, Jr.
So, to all of you who have been a part of this journey, no matter how big or small, we want you to know that you will never be forgotten. We will never be able to properly repay you for your generosity, but we can promise you this: Your selflessness will live on in our family for generations to come.
“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” – Mother Teresa
Until next time,
Conner & Mysteree